We all want the lives we want, right? The lives we’re working for and deserve. So how exactly—and why—does the daily practice of extraordinary self-care matter in a culture chock full of ambitious individualists? Get ready for this news flash, friends: because the nose-to-the-grindstone success model you may be sweating is… well… history.
First, some truth from me to you: there was a time when I regularly asked myself “why life coaching?” Because, honestly, I cringed at the term. Despite my passion for the profession, I tap-danced all around that particular phrase when describing what I feel privileged to do. It was funny, really. Life coaching just felt cliché somehow.
But then one intense day, a very special lady in my life, my elderly mother, unexpectedly ended all that. She got down to the essence of things the way moms do, saying, “Why beat around the bush? You’re a life coach.”
Great big wave of her little hand. Great big emphasis on life while—more truth here—at the end of her own. So, instead of feeling annoyed by her opinion, it was instant goose-bump city for me. Long story short, cut to now: I’m a life coach.
Indeed, my dears, let’s talk positive mindset.Because the truth is that you, despite all the parts and pieces of you that can be quite a diverse cast of characters, can be your own cheerleader-in-chief at critical junctures. You can in fact allow only helpful thoughts, with a clear call to take a hike to all else that may want its discouraging say.
What’s more, it can be fun, yo! Ready to play? (Just say yes.) And off we go.
1. Sniff like a bloodhound for negative voices.
You may not have a natural ability to notice voices inside or outside you that are discouraged or fearful for whatever good reason, or that are just plain struggling to trust that the life you want is possible. But like any skill that you work at, you can learn this.
First, work to notice when those “you can’t” or “the sky is falling” voices strike. And what do they say, exactly? Listen closely to whatever you hear.