Wonderful Things About Some Millennials I Know

Wonderful Things About Some Millennials I Know - Teresa Young

These days, as always, I hear and read this and that about millennials. And much of it involves them getting a bad rap. Let’s face it, dissing millennials is practically a trend.

Meanwhile I’m a boomer with lots of millennials in my inner circle. And I feel like providing some counterpoint. Toward that end, I’ll list some great qualities that the millennials I know have in common. Of course generalizing about a whole generation is a bit like throwing spaghetti at the wall: some sticks, some doesn’t. But why not take that step? It’s the mood I’m in.

So what follows is my own POV. And if you don’t know, that’s screenwriter talk for “point of view.” Because one thing the millennials I know have in common is that they’re crazy about… movies! In fact, the combined knowledge of my three grown sons in the realm of filmmaking—directors, genres, styles, technical and creative nuance, and all manner of related info—is a constant wonder to me.

Most importantly at this moment, I say that awareness of POV is healthy, and smart. It’s about truly getting that we each have a certain perspective, certain biases of our own, rather than making blanket assumptions that others see (or should see) things the way we do.

So as I share my POV on the attributes of some wonderful milliennial-type people I know, consider how yours may be similar to mine or different. And off we go.

Millennials’ bullshit detectors are sensitive instruments.

To put it bluntly, surely you’ve noticed that millennials are quite willing to call bullshit when they detect it. Do you flash on an example as you read that? I do. Many. And I respect that superpower. It contrasts sharply with my memories of myself as a young adult, thoroughly trained from childhood as a people-pleaser.

And of course expressing one’s POV respectfully and/or gently makes a difference in the trenches of everyday life. In light of that tall order for all of us, I say that life experience over the long haul tends to soften the sharp edges that any of us may wield, whether intentionally or not.

Meanwhile, some folks probably experience this quality of many millennials as knee-jerk suspicion and premature judgment. But if my own experience is any indication, you may find that in sharing your perspective with millennials in a relaxed way, with curiosity about your differences, you can engage with them in some very satisfying dialogue.

I say take the time, while doing the work of keeping your own mind open. The quality of our relationships is worth that good work on all our parts, perhaps especially right… about… now.

Millennials are values-driven.

Generalizing is tricky, right? Because of course it isn’t true that everybody born between 1981 and 1996 is particularly values-driven. And yet, consider how little of what grounded us older folks as children and young adults is still running the show. Consider the reality of millions of young people coming of age in a brand new millennium.

Yes, in truth, life here in the early 21st century is so vastly different from my young-adult boomer days that it’s hard to comprehend. Maybe, while growing up with so much change, uncertainty, and resulting chaos, millennials have had to make their own meaning in order to make life feel worth living.

Because with all of us more and more free to be ourselves, I see the millennials I know as utterly willing to discover and act on their own individual values. And in the midst of that necessary work on their part, it sure seems like a brand new kind of 21st century social consciousness is emerging. If so, I say look out, world.

Millennials are environmentally conscious.

Environmental consciousness is one case in point. Even more than just being conscious of environmental issues, millennials are doing their homework and then taking meaningful action. They’re making life choices based on how our habitual ways of living, consuming, and doing business are affecting our precious planet.

What’s more, as their ecological knowledge continues to deepen and they get increasingly clear about what advances real progress, I predict they’ll begin dominating the conversation. Even something as straightforward as their buying power can make a permanent difference in the world.

And just imagine their voting power. When millennials truly grasp the reality of the power they hold politically, I say it’ll be nothing less than a game changer. Indeed, their unprecedented level of engagement in the 2020 election may be a teaser for what lies ahead.

 

The millennials I know are utterly willing
to act on their own individual values.

Millennials are socially conscious.

The millennials I know have zero patience with isms like racism and sexism. They’re also squarely laissez-faire in the realms of lifestyle, gender, and relationship choices.

The bottom line is, don’t waste your time or theirs on petty or even philosophical diatribes around these issues. Or feel free to go for it and get an earful in return. It’s “live and let live” with them in ways that renew my confidence in our future as a global community.

Millennials are effortlessly tech-savvy.

They’re like smart devices themselves, wired to connect without special effort via ever-changing technology. I’ve been aware of something new—their extreme neural plasticity relative to all things technological—since my now 33 year old-son Taylor was five. As I’ve sweated to hold my own in all that, I’ve marveled at their keen capabilities and called on them as expert resources.

And of course one juicy question is what will they do with their technological superpowers? Where are we really headed now as a species? As a planet? In the ongoing evolutionary process that they will soon lead, I’m banking on my hope that their strong connections to one another will ease the existential alienation that can seem baked into our increasingly digital lives.

Millennials have strong friend communities.

Speaking of superpowers, the millennials I know have the strongest friend communities I’ve ever seen. After all, they came of age as so many cultural, social, and religious rituals were losing their remaining relevance. So these days, perhaps in an evolutionary demonstration of emotional plasticity, millennials are crafting their own satisfying, even ritualized ways of being in community. It’s inspiring to see and to experience firsthand in special moments.

Millennials demand healthy relationships.

For years I’ve had the sense that these young folks have seen it all. To be clear, I don’t think they think they know it all, but they do know what they don’t want. They want authenticity, yes. But they also want stability. And they Do. Not. Want. Drama. Don’t try it.

Or go for it if you must, given your own conditioning. If you do, my prediction is that millennial-type people like the ones I know will just check you with some countermoves that help them continue to grow, and you as well. So maybe it’s in fact all good.

 

The millennials I know are crafting their
own satisfying ways of being in community.

Millennials transition with caution from romance to commitment.

Did you know that the 50% divorce rate we’ve been hearing about so depressingly for the last few decades has been changing lately? That’s because, in contrast to the way we Boomers blew up the stability of marriage and family life, GenX couples are so far staying together in greater numbers.

In a slightly different twist, the current “millennial way” is to proceed with caution in the realm of traditional committed relationships. I interpret this as part of their values-driven consciousness. They value stability, authenticity, and individual freedom. It’s a lot to integrate. In the process, they don’t mind waiting.

They also have the capacity to be truly straightforward with one another about what they want and are ready for—or not—in relationships. And I get the sense that, if the inherent messiness of living lands them at relationship endings with children involved, they’ll do things differently. Less Kramer vs. Kramer‘s tortured despair. More It’s Complicated‘s nuanced problem-solving. Another promising sign of our continuing evolution at a critical juncture.

And to end on a delicious note, millennials are foodies.

Just like plenty of folks around all of us these days, millennials are quite serious about food! So if you’re trying to connect with a particular young person or two, you may be able to do so quite pleasurably through your culinary appetites and explorations.

You may learn some things from them, too, in the realm of healthy, conscious deliciousness, with those multiple aspects of our food choices increasingly integrated. And when you think about how fundamental all that is to the sustainable human journey here in the 21st century, well, I see millennials’ best food-centric instincts as more signs of promise.

It’s a great time for us all to move forward, together.

And of course I hope my POV is helpful. Feel free to let me know as you walk your particular path, living the life you choose, while relating enjoyably to the millennials in your circle. After all, it’s as true as ever that 1. the one constant in life is change, and 2. the young ones in our lives really are the future. Let’s move into it in creative conversation and collaboration with them.

Teresa Young

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Ready for Some SuRpriSe? Time to Invite the Unknown Into Your Life.

Invite Surprise with Life Coach Teresa Young

When’s the last time you got a surprise from someone, or from life itself? And I do mean in the good kind. Can’t remember? Ready to change that? Well, then it’s time to invite some surprise into your life.

Because the truth is that often, for all our talk of wanting more of this or a different that, we tend to travel the same well-worn paths over and over. We “soldier on”, acting out habits that have grown stale. And those habits can include putting off casual daydreams—or rich fantasies—of adventure or change. Instead, we stay in our well-worn lanes.

 

We tend to travel the same well-worn
paths over and over, acting out habits
that may have grown stale.

Change may not be the most natural thing

Basically, we humans fear change. There’s often no real reason why not to make one. Besides our natural fears, it’s just that we’ve perhaps always lived the way we’re living. Or it’s how we’ve watched the folks around us “do life.” Besides, our routines are comforting, right? They work.

Or do they? Hmmm. Maybe the truth is somewhere between yes and no.

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Why in the World Would You Want (and Deserve) Life Coaching?

Why Life Coaching - with Teresa Young

First, some truth from me to you:  there was a time when I regularly asked myself “why life coaching?” Because, honestly, I cringed at the term. Despite my passion for the profession, I tap-danced all around that particular phrase when describing what I feel privileged to do. It was funny, really. Life coaching just felt cliché somehow.

But then one intense day, a very special lady in my life, my elderly mother, unexpectedly ended all that. She got down to the essence of things the way moms do, saying, “Why beat around the bush? You’re a life coach.”

Great big wave of her little hand. Great big emphasis on life while—more truth here—at the end of her own. So, instead of feeling annoyed by her opinion, it was instant goose-bump city for me. Then I surprised myself with a wave of energy that I used to re-frame the work that I love.

So what is life coaching, really?

A few weeks ago I happened onto an insightful article about coaching. The author provided short definitions for different types. But her take on life coaching felt narrow to me. She described it as being about personal change, with niches within it like youth, addiction, and divorce.

Of course that’s all good. Just not quite integrative enough in my book. Instead, I see life coaching as a powerful context in which to support the growth and goals of committed clients. It’s a much broader context than just the “personal”, whatever that actually means.

For me, life coaching is an opportunity to develop the whole person who we each are, toward maximum effectiveness and fulfillment. Here’s more of what I mean:

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My New Crush: The Work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, Part 2 – Essential Concepts

Dr. Joe Dispenza

As a busy life coach always working to keep my own head on straight, the well-validated work of Dr. Joe Dispenza inspires and energizes me big-time. In fact, I say he’s doing some of the most important teaching on the planet these days. It’s changing me and my work with my coaching clients.

So while encouraging my clients to read his books, download his meditations, and more, I also wrote Part 1 of my own introduction to his work. Then I let Part 2 steep a bit while diving deep into his concepts and methods. My goal here is boil all that down to what’s most essential for you to get in this transformative personal power game! If you’re brand new to him, I encourage you to start with Part 1, then meet me back here.

Now, as you read on, truly give yourself permission to hang in here with me. This work requires a new kind of mental discipline. You can put a toe in that world by experimenting with real focus and attention here. Seriously. Consider it a playful challenge from me to beautiful you.

First a recap: what does “you are the placebo” mean?

In my words, from Part 1:

The fact that the placebo effect happens to some humans means we can learn to use it.

The placebo effect occurs because we—our hearts and minds and beliefs—are that powerful. Though maybe not naturally. Maybe not without steady work and real changes to beliefs and habits. To patterns and resulting cycles in our lives.

In fact, I regard Dr. Dispenza’s work so highly because he has mastered the how of this effect. How to apply it in our own lives. I’d say the “how” of personal transformation is his super-power. And he wants all of us in on the transformative action.

So now (drum roll)… let’s get to it.

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