First, some truth from me to you: there was a time when I regularly asked myself “why life coaching?” Because, honestly, I cringed at the term. Despite my passion for the profession, I tap-danced all around that particular phrase when describing what I feel privileged to do. It was funny, really. Life coaching just felt cliché somehow.
But then one intense day, a very special lady in my life, my elderly mother, unexpectedly ended all that. She got down to the essence of things the way moms do, saying, “Why beat around the bush? You’re a life coach.”
Great big wave of her little hand. Great big emphasis on life while—more truth here—at the end of her own. So, instead of feeling annoyed by her opinion, it was instant goose-bump city for me. Long story short, cut to now: I’m a life coach.
When’s the last time you got a surprise from someone, or from life itself? And I do mean in the good kind. Can’t remember? Ready to change that? Well, then it’s time to invite some surprise into your life.
Because the truth is that often, for all our talk of wanting more of this or a different that, we tend to travel the same well-worn paths over and over. We “soldier on”, acting out habits that have grown stale. And those habits can include putting off casual daydreams—or rich fantasies—of adventure or change. Instead, we stay in our well-worn lanes.
We tend to travel the same well-worn paths over and over, acting out habits that may have grown stale.
As a busy life coach always working to keep my own head on straight, the well-validated work of Dr. Joe Dispenza inspires and energizes me big-time. In fact, I say he’s doing some of the most important teaching on the planet these days. It’s changing me and my work with my coaching clients.
Anybody who works with me knows I’m fascinated by the brain. By how it works, and how to train it. So it makes sense that I would eventually find the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza.
Dr. Dispenza’s name popped up in my YouTube feed sometime in 2018, while my family was in the midst of some intense challenges. And I was instantly intrigued. For one thing, I’ve long been a fan of his colleague Gregg Braden‘s work at the crossroads of science and spirituality, and of his colleague Bruce Lipton’s important contributions to the new science of epigenetics.
Ah, happiness. It’s one of life’s holy grails, right? The truth is that we often seek happiness like distant treasure we’re determined to find. Someday, somewhere, off in the hazy future, where the grass is greener, all our wishes and dreams will be fulfilled. Then we’ll “be happy.”
But what do we really need to be happy?
When my oldest son went off to college, I realized that my dream for him was the capacity for happiness. Indeed, as I was letting go of my first little guy who had grown into a fine young man, nothing else I could want for him even came close.
Indeed, dear ones, are you ready to design your life?
To be an artist is to believe in life.
— Henry Moore
These words of wisdom from sculptor Henry Moore made my night. I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationship between creativity and health. About all the ways we creative types have to express ourselves in modern life. All the freedom we have to do so.
Though I’m not saying it’s easy. If so, would it, as Kurt Vonnegut said about practicing any art, make our souls grow?
Back from helping my family in the Florida Panhandle amid Hurricane Michael’s devastation, I’m a few weeks into grieving this tragic experience for a community, this time my hometown. This time my loved ones.
So I feel like sharing a bit of what I’m reflecting on right now.