Indeed, my dears, let’s talk positive mindset.Because the truth is that you, despite all the parts and pieces of you that can be quite a diverse cast of characters, can be your own cheerleader-in-chief at critical junctures. You can in fact allow only helpful thoughts, with a clear call to take a hike to all else that may want its discouraging say.
What’s more, it can be fun, yo! Ready to play? (Just say yes.) And off we go.
1. Sniff like a bloodhound for negative voices.
You may not have a natural ability to notice voices inside or outside you that are discouraged or fearful for whatever good reason, or that are just plain struggling to trust that the life you want is possible. But like any skill that you work at, you can learn this.
First, work to notice when those “you can’t” or “the sky is falling” voices strike. And what do they say, exactly? Listen closely to whatever you hear.
To get to what life coaching really is, let’s begin at the beginning. As in, what is coaching? Well, think football. Basketball. Golf. The Olympics.
Got it instantly, right? Now. Can you picture sports teams—or their star players—bringing their best to the game at hand without their coaches?
Next, widen that view to me and you. Because life has been changing lightning fast since the late 20th century. And never more so than now.
More and more we understand so much that we once had little awareness of, like the connection between stress and health. Between visualizing and achieving. We get the relationship between the ways we “do life” and what we get done.
What coaching isn’t
By the way, coaching isn’t therapy, another important resource. Coaching is present- and future-based. Coaching is about achieving goals rather than processing and healing.
The golf pro expects to get to the next level with his swing through coaching. Coaching is results-driven.
And to be crystal clear, I’m not saying that therapy doesn’t promote growth. It absolutely does! And the fact is, accomplishing what we want most is the specific, razor-sharp point of being coached.
Also, coaches know you can’t just put icing on whatever is there and call it cake. To say it another way, positive thinking isn’t a game changer. Coaching is inspirational. But it’s also so much more.